How to Give Your Baby up for Adoption

How to Give Your Baby up for Adoption

 

Finding out that you are pregnant when it wasn’t planned can be a really scary time. Many birth parents feel overwhelmed about what to do and find it hard to get accurate information about their options. Adoption Minnesota wants to help teach you about the adoption process and how to give your baby up for adoption.

 

The first step in giving your baby up for adoption is to call an adoption counselor. Adoption Minnesota counselors are available day and night to talk with your and support you through this process.

 

The next step is finding an adoptive family. Adoption MN has many families for you to choose from. After you decide which family you are interested in, you can proceed however you’d like. You may call, email or meet with adoptive parents. You can communicate your plan directly through your adoption counselor also.

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After you have decided on which family you would like to give your baby to we sit down and create an adoption plan. Adoption MN can help you create an adoption plan that fits your needs. Your counselor will assist you in planning your hospital stay. You can decide on spending time with your baby and/or the adoptive parents, if that is what you desire. You can also create a plan for future contact with your child and the adoptive parents that can include photos, updates and possible visits. Giving your baby up for adoption is a really hard process and many birth parents want to have some openness after the placement, so that they know how their child is doing.

When giving up your baby for adoption you need to remember that after you deliver the hospital is your time. You can decide if you, and family or friends, will spend time with the baby. If you would like to have the adoptive parents there at the hospital they can come whenever you would like. The adoptive parents can come to the hospital and you may or may not want to spend time with them, it’s up to you. Once the baby and you are ready to be discharged from the hospital, the baby goes home with the adoptive parents. We do not use foster care.

After you place or give your baby up for adoption there is one more step before it becomes final. When you feel emotionally, mentally and physically ready to sign the final paperwork you come to our adoption agency. To complete the adoption process, birth parents need to consent to the adoption. The consent is a legal document that birth parents in MN cannot sign until between 72 hours after the birth of the baby, and up until 60 days after birth. Once this consent is signed, it becomes irrevocable 10 working days after signature.

After you have placed or given your baby up for adoption we are here to support you and help you grieve. Your counselor will be available to talk and meet with you after the adoption placement for as long as you need support. We can help you find support groups and other birth parents to speak with who have gone through the adoption process.

I hope this helps you to understand the process. If you have additional questions Adoption Minnesota is here to help.

Birthmom Focused Adoptions

Adoption Minnesota finds it important to create birthmom focused adoption plans.

 

What is a birthmom focused adoption? It is a plan where the birthmom decides how the adoption will go. Birthmoms have a lot of choices when it comes to adoption and it is important to focus on how they want the process to go. Our agency works with birthmoms to focus on how they want the adoption to happen. Birthmoms can choose the adoptive family, decide how they want the hospital time to go and plan what they want for openness or contact after the placement.

Birthmom focused adoptions are very important. When an adoption focuses on the birthmom’s needs and wants, it allows her to feel better about the adoption. It helps the birthmom grieve and heal knowing that she created a plan to fit what works best for her baby and herself.

We also feel that is best after the placement to continue to focus on the birthmom. Adoption Minnesota continues to support and work with our birthmoms for as long as they need us after they place their newborn for adoption. We meet up with them to counsel them in person at a location of their choice, help them find support groups and talk to other birthmoms if they are interested in doing so.